Everyone goes through their own life struggles, however not many come close to the ups and downs of Glasgow Warriors scrum-half, Grayson Hart. Despite experiencing death, drugs and suicide, the New Zealand born Scottish international describes himself as “the happiest dude on the planet.”
More impressive is whilst balancing his professional rugby career, Grayson is trying to help people of all ages as well as those in his club changing room, by taking his experiences to positively affect others.
Hart’s childhood was spent with his father after his parents split. Talking about his dad who was a recovering heroin addict, Grayson says; “My dad loved us to death and did everything for us but he wasn’t the biggest disciplinarian. We get ideas ingrained into us and I grew up believing I wasn’t up to much.”
At 21, with a highly promising rugby career ahead, the world fell from under Grayson’s feet when his father died after suffering from cancer. Turning to alcohol, gambling and prescription drugs for a short time, the rugby career threatened to fall away and Grayson was told not to return to his contracted club; Auckland Blues.
Shortly after this, he and his brother found his cousin hanging from a tree after struggling from a meth addiction – luckily he was alive. Despite all of these struggles and hitting rock bottom, Grayson has now been able to look back, take on board the devastating experiences and turn them into life lessons.
“One of the greatest blessings for me was when my dad passed away because I went on an even worse path. I hit rock bottom and my perception changed.
“I realised your feeling isn’t created by a circumstance. That never creates how you feel, it is created by your perception towards it and what you allow your thoughts to create”
An encouraging future developed to darkness and obscurity but has now found light in Scotland; the birth place of his grandmother.
“Finding out who you can become is greater than any success”
Talking about his promising career, Hart says: “Sometimes you might think that you are so good at something that it will just take care of itself instead of driving towards it. That happened in my rugby career.
“I wouldn’t change anything for the world but there are times when you think on what I could have done but that’s looking at an outward circumstance to fulfil you. All the experiences I have had, the rise and the fall and the slow climb back up again to a professional player, I can appreciate it fully now.”
So many young men and woman may go through situations like Grayson’s, or other tough times in their lives. What helped Grayson get through was books and learning what it was that inspired this thought process around his life.
“I really now believe that life is about growing and expanding yourself and if someone comes to you and says I have got the answers to everything, this is what you’ve got to do, those are the type of people you might want to stay away from because there is never a final answer.
“One of the greatest things I can say to anyone reading or listening is stop worrying what other people think of you, that’s the most detrimental thing, and finding out who you can become is greater than any success.”
With the help of his fiancée, Chelsea, Grayson has now designed a pathway to try and help others change their perceptions on life. The Good Life Movement is a website platform to share the experiences that have helped shape this new perception on life; his podcast ‘The New Flow’ with fellow Glasgow Warriors player Adam Ashe address similar issues.
Through the Good Life Movement, schools and businesses donate to allow Grayson to speak about creating a new understanding on how the mind works to their students or colleagues with all proceeds going towards charitable organisations close to his heart.
“I was inspired to do the website because I am extremely passionate about sharing the things I do in my life that have helped me to have a new perception and enjoy life more. It is all about breaking through obstacles and starting to create our own lives instead of lives that we think are made for us and ingrained from around us.”
Finding out who Grayson Hart is, is what he defines as the greatest success in his career. No longer do you find a man worrying that success is what car you own or how much your pay packet is but, as he says; “Instead of focusing on success of other people, look at what you value and you will find success that way.” Grayson is now a self-educated, inspiring individual and by allowing others to learn from his experiences and new found perceptions will no doubt be a positive stimulus to help others through their own life struggles.